Tip for Raising Children: Love and Positive Associations

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As members of this Muslim Ummah, we must strive harder to play a central role in building a solid Muslim identity in our children.

Some tips for parents:

It is important for parents to spend quality time with their children and show their love to them. Time and love will develop a deeply rooted relationship of mutual trust. It will pave a pathway for open communication, strong foundation for their emotional well-being and a beautiful shelter in their own homes.

In this context, parents must develop their children’s experiences in such a way that they always have positive associations with Islam. Such positive memories will help instil the love of our beautiful Deen in their hearts.

Negative associations on the other hand, typically linked to parental strictness, constant threats of Allah’s punishment and impossibly high standards, will forever link the Deen to feelings of pessimism, dread and helplessness. This coupled with the constant barrage of peer pressure faced in schools is causing many of our youth to leave the Deen.

May Allah make our children those who have piety and taqwa. May Allah make our children strong leaders for this Muslim Ummah who abide by the Quran and Sunnah. Ameen.

FASTING DAY OF ASHOORA

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fasting the day of ‘Arafah I hope Allaah will expiate thereby for the year before it and the year after it, and fasting the day of ‘Ashoora’ I hope Allaah will expiate thereby for the year that came before it.” Narrated by Muslim, 1162.

This is by the bounty that Allaah bestows upon us, whereby fasting one day expiates for the sins of a whole year. And Allaah is the Owner of great bounty. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to be very keen to make sure he fasted on the day of ‘Ashoora’ because of its great status.

It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I never saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) so keen to make sure he fasted any day and preferring it over another except this day, the day of ‘Ashoora’, and this month – meaning Ramadaan. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1867.

With regard to the reason why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) fasted on the day of ‘Ashoora’ and urged the people to do likewise is mentioned in the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (1865) from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to Madeenah and saw the Jews fasting on the day of ‘Ashoora’. He said, “What is this?” They said, “This is a good day, this is the day when Allaah saved the Children of Israel from their enemy and Moosa fasted on this day.” He said, “We are closer to Moosa than you.” So he fasted on this day and told the people to fast.

‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) fasted on the day of ‘Ashoora and told the people to fast, they said, “O Messenger of Allaah, this is a day that is venerated by the Jews and Christians.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Next year, if Allaah wills, we will fast on the ninth day.” But by the time the following year came, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had passed away.

Narrated by Muslim, 1916.

Al-Shaafa’i and his companions, Ahmad, Ishaaq and others said: It is mustahabb [recommended] to fast both the ninth and the tenth, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) fasted the tenth and intended to fast the ninth.

Based on this, there are different ways of fasting ‘Ashoora’, the least of which is to fast the tenth only, but it is better to fast the ninth as well. The more one fasts in Muharram, the better.

Islam QA

Planning the First 10 Days of Dhul-Hijjah (download printable Dhul-Hijjah Planner)

The month of Dhul- Hijjah is approaching us soon inshaAllah. In this month are the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah. Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him and his father) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“There are no days in which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days.” The people asked, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah?” He said, “Not even jihaad for the sake of Allaah, except in the case of a man who went out to fight giving himself and his wealth up for the cause, and came back with nothing.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 2/457).

The first ten days of Dhul Hijjah also include the Day of Arafat, on which Allaah perfected His Religion. Fasting on this day will expiate for the sins of 2 years.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to fast on the first nine days of Dhu’l-Hijjah.

It is also Sunnah to say Takbeer (“Allaahu akbar”), Tahmeed (“Al-hamdu Lillaah”), Tahleel (“La ilaha ill-Allaah”) and Tasbeeh (“Subhaan Allaah”) during the first ten days of Dhu’l-Hijjah, and to say it loudly in the mosque, the home, the street and every place where it is permitted to remember Allaah and mention His name out loud, as an act of worship and as a proclamation of the greatness of Allaah, may He be exalted. Men should recite these phrases out loud, and women should recite them quietly.

It is important for us to use these ten days to come closer to Allah swt through our acts of worship and sincere repentance. We must use this time to correct our mistakes and improve ourselves as Muslims.

These special ten days will pass by us very quickly. It may be beneficial and more productive if we plan ahead. Download this printable “Dhul Hijjah Planner ” where you can write goals on how you would like to spend the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah.

May Allaah swt help and guide us all. May Allaah help us to benefit from these ten days.

 

Fasting 6 Days of Shawwal

Fasting six days of Shawwaal after the obligatory fast of Ramadaan is Sunnah Mustahabbah, not waajib. It is recommended for the Muslim to fast six days of Shawwaal, and in this there is great virtue and an immense reward. Whoever fasts these six days will have recorded for him a reward as if he had fasted a whole year, as was reported in a saheeh hadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

Abu Ayyoob (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“Whoever fasts Ramadaan and follows it with six days of Shawwaal, it will be as if he fasted for a lifetime.”

(Narrated by Muslim, Abu Dawood, al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa’i and Ibn Maajah).

– Islam QA

Guard, Engage and Supplicate: Purifying our Tongue

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There is an organ with which we have been gifted and we use it regularly to get through our daily lives. Despite our constant usage, we often underestimate the powerful impact it is capable of producing. Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has instructed us to restrain it. For it carries so much more weight than we perceive.

That organ is our tongue. Small in size, yet it can determine one’s fate. How often do we utter phrases which hurt others? How often do we engage in backbiting thinking it’s just a few harmless sentences uttered in secrecy?  Do we even realize the benefits reaped by reciting dhikr?

Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“A man speaks a word pleasing to Allah, not realizing that it is worth so many rewards, for which Allah records for him His Good Pleasure till the Day he meets Him, and a man speaks a word displeasing to Allah All-High, not realizing that it leads to so many sins for which Allah records for him His Displeasure till the Day he meets Him.” (At -Tirmidhi, rated it as authentic)

The tongue can drag a person deeper into the Fire as our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said that:

“A man speaks a word without considering it of any importance, yet for it he will sink down into Hell further than the distance between the East and the West.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

The above hadith stress the importance of taking heed to the words we utter. With the help of Allah, we can control our tongue and steer it towards the right direction through motivation, constant practice and dua. A simple 3 step process can get us started.

1) Guard

Firstly we must guard our tongue. This requires us to secure it from speech which displeases Allah. This is done by leaving the sinful habits linked to our tongue such as backbiting, lying, slandering, engaging in arguments, ridiculing, excessive and useless talk.

2) Engage

Once we have guarded our tongue from sins, we must engage in actions that please Allah swt using our tongue. For instance, by engaging in dhikr that carry heavy rewards.

Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Who-ever says ‘Subhan Allahi wa bihamdi hi’, one hundred times a day, will be forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea.” [ Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Other actions include expressing gratitude, reciting istighfar, praising others, speaking the truth and phrases that reflect good manners and character.

3) Supplicate

A phrase which I cannot stress enough – never underestimate the power of dua. Duas can change our lives. And unfortunately many of us find ourselves stumbling across the problem of not making enough dua. Along with our ongoing efforts, we must make dua! We must supplicate that Allah swt enables and makes it easy for us to utilize our tongue in a manner that pleases Him. Do not let the shaitan wither away your hope.

May Allah make it easy for you and I to purify our tongues so that we can worship Him better.  Ameen.

GROWING ELEMENTS OF SUCCESS IN YOUR LIFE

 

Why seek success? These IMG_2916days with so many distractions around us  laziness, heedlessness and wasting of time are traps that we as humans beings are easily guilty of falling into. These elements of unproductivity should be dealt with seriousness given the deep consequences they can provoke in the long term. Our lives have not been created to be wasted. Every moment counts. As Muslims, we need to devote our lives to seek real success while avoiding sins and the traps of unproductivity as much as possible. The life of our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon) was filled with initiatives and we should strive to do the same. Not only is seeking success critical at an individual level, but important for the Ummah to grow and flourish.  One day we will be standing before our Lord, held accountable for our deeds and how we spent our lives. The present world is a fertile soil for us and a means to cultivate fruits of success. We need to understand how to take care of this fertile soil before it is too late.

What is Success?

To be able to understand real success , it is imperative for us to understand the purpose of our existence.  It is clear that mankind has been created with the purpose of worshipping Allah alone.

 “And I (Allaah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)”

[al-Dhaariyaat 51:56] 

We are asked to believe in Allah, to submit to Him, to love Him and to obey His Commands. The Straight Path defined by our Lord is the only path that will nurture the fruits of success in both this world and in the Hereafter.

“Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female — while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)”

[al-Nahl 16:97] 

“But those who believe, love Allaah more (than anything else)”

[al-Baqarah 2:165]

‘Success’ does not lie alone in the path towards material resources nor does it lie alone in commonly pursued desires such as honor and prestige. Allah swt tells us that true and eternal success can be obtained by loving Allah more than anything else and by following His Straight Path through righteous deeds which He has prescribed for us clearly in the Quran and the Sunnah. Righteous deeds are those acts of obedience that have been enjoined on us and should be done purely for the sake of Allah swt. They are either obligations or commendable actions outlined in the Quran and the Sunnah.

Hence our ultimate goal should be to believe in Allah and His Oneness, to love Him more than anything else and to worship Him alone with humility whereas our daily actions should originate from this belief. Our faith should not be something that is detached from our realities or something that vanishes once we finish our salah or leave the masjid. Rather it should be incorporated fully into our lives. We need to develop the understanding and knowledge that will enable us to see how each action in our lives can bring us closer to Allah. Through such alignment, we will begin to perceive the value of each deed based on how it draws us closer to Allah. Such an alignment can give us the ability to realize our full potential and to be productive no matter what the circumstances. Building our identity around the love for Allah can give rise to motivation and actions that are righteous and pleasing to Allah — hence setting the grounds for true success.

To elaborate on this, let’s look at a brief example. Suppose someone goes to work every morning but experiences tiredness and laziness with little motivation. Instead of maintaining such an approach, that person should immediately think of how that very action can bring him/her closer to Allah. There are many ways to look at this particular situation. Perhaps that person should try to be more patient for Allah’s sake even when things get difficult and stressful. He/she could also develop an intention to spend their salary on their family and others who are in need as an act of charity. Furthermore, as an employee, that individual is entrusted with the employer to do their job right and to get things done. Given the mutual agreement, that person should fear Allah and maintain the trust with the employer. They should be honest and committed in their work and remember the following hadith – Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah loves, when one of you does a thing, that he should do it well.”[1]

Thus we should try our best to seek the reward from Allah swt through our daily activities as much as possible. Endeavouring to adapt such a mindset can open doors to real accomplishments, productivity and eternal success. Choosing our actions according to what pleases Allah can give us the ability to grasp the essence of life and discover inner peace. It can allow us to taste the sweetness of faith and worship while adhering to the remembrance of Our Creator.

Allah says (intepretation of the meaning):

Say: “Truly, my prayer and my service of sacrifice, my life and my death are (all) for Allah, the Cherisher of the Worlds

[Al- Anaam 6:162]

May Allah make us amongst those who are successful in this world and in the Hereafter.

References

Islam QA

Lecture Series ‘Faith Based Intelligence’ by Sheikh Moutasem Al-Hameedy

“Enjoining Right & Forbidding Wrong” by Ibn Taymiyya

First Ten Days of Dhu’l-Hijjah

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The first ten days of Dhu’l Hijjah have arrived. These ten days have a special virtue attached to them. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to maximize righteous deeds during these days which Allah has favoured.

It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are no days on which righteous deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these ten days.” They said: “Not even jihad for the sake of Allaah?” He said: “Not even jihad for the sake of Allaah, unless a man goes out himself for jihad taking his wealth with him and does not come back with anything.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2/457